Friday, February 20, 2009


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Saturday, February 14, 2009

If you are married:

Please copy this blog and change your answers. I want you to comment so I know to look on your blogsite. Consider yourself tagged if you are married.


What are your names: Lynda and Jack

♥ What are your middle names? Annette and Wayne

♥ How long have you been together? Married almost 34 years and together nearly 36
♥ How long did you know each other before you started dating? 3-4 months
♥ Who asked who out? He asked me to do our laundry together
♥ How old are each of you? He is nearly 79 and I am 62
♥ Whose siblings do/did you see the most? We see my brother John the most
♥ Do you have any children together? 3 biological kids and he has 2 other daughters and I have a son he helped raise. We also took in a few extras.
♥ What about pets? There have been many but at present we have 2 dogs
♥ Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple? Currently as Jack has Parkingson symptoms and dementia
♥ Did you go to the same school? That is a funny one...nope
♥ Are you from the same home town? No
♥ Who is the smartest? I am the whiz
♥ Who is the most sensitive? He cries at movies and when kids cry but if someone dies he keeps on chewing and says "Oh"
♥ Where do you eat out most as a couple? Breakfast various places
♥ Who has the craziest ex? We are rivals for this award
♥ Who has the worst temper? Me but not unless really pushed over my limits
♥ Who does the cooking? I do
♥ Who is more social? Me
♥ Who is the neat-freak? I clean and clean and sort and it still looks less than perfect
♥ Who is more stubborn? We are both stubborn in different areas
♥ Who hogs the bed? He snores, I snore, I am up and down and so is he so we have seperate beds
♥ Who wakes up earlier? He does usually but anything goes
♥ Where was your first date? We went to a drive in movie in Alb., N.M.
♥ Who has the bigger family? He has 3 sibs and I have two seperated by 16 years
♥ Do you get flowers often? He gave me flowers about 5 times over the years
♥ How do you spend the holidays? Before we moved into our doll house we had big gatherings for all the relatives and kids. I miss that a lot. I am still sad on holidays for the loss.
♥ Who is more jealous? He is jealous of my time
♥ How long did it take to get serious? From Sept. 23rd, 1973
♥ Who eats more? I eat more vegetables. He eats more starches
♥ Who does/did the laundry? I usually do it. He is not allowed to
♥ Who’s better with the computer? He has never touched the computer
♥ Who drives when you are together? Jack used to but I now do it all.

Posted by Lynda on Heart Day

Friday, February 13, 2009

Hearts are broken everyday.

I am a mother. I know that my kids have turned out to be independent and fairly self-sufficient in a world that is hard to navigate. I also know that my heart is broken for the relationships in the family that are in ruins, and for the decisions made to sever relationships or break confidences or judge a brother or sister. I want so badly for my kids to all love Christ and serve Him and to love one another as part of the body of Christ. I see the results of bitterness all around me. I see the results of those that don't care. Hearts that are seared become unfeeling. It is hard to have a heart for the lost if you do not have a heart for a family member. Valentines day has always been one of my favorite holidays. It is so gushy and full of possibility. I am glad to hear of marriages where love is celebrated and friendships that celebrate and family members who remember each other with love. I really do not expect to get a valentine from many. I don't really care though it is important for me to send them if I can. What I care about is that the family try to see one another in the light of Christ and learn to forgive. What I care about is that they stop judging one another and just love. Well, they will do what they do and I will stay the mother. What is my role? Prayer Warrior and Encourager. Maybe all mothers have broken hearts from time to time. It goes with the territory.

Some days are like that...

I am glad Friday is here. I am with kids. One is bellowing while I blog but she knocked over the tv this week and was at it again and would not be deterred so I put her in her fenced in area. She is upset with me. Life is just like that. Some days everyone is mad at me. Yah well it is okay. I do not fear their anger. I can take it. I have to answer to my own conscience and it works well. God is real and my conscience is fine tuned by Him. So worse than having a person mad is feeling that I have displeased my Lord. Now that sounded very sanctimonious. Forgive me as I spew my thoughts.

The week was stressful. I chose to do some things based on my beliefs so it upset others one way or another. I do not regret it.

I had a good meeting with someone today. I stuck to the principles and went back to the basics and it went well. I could have been reactive but why? I do not fear words either. They are like an arsenol at times but if I just keep calm and ask questions and avoid reacting and instead respond then it all works better. People will not always agree but "agreements" can be reached if you just aim for a win-win.

I like others to succeed. I want to be an encourager. I like to point or lead the way. I like to do it Jesus' way. Life is good (even though I really do not like my life situation at present) in spite of all the tests, trials, persecutions and misunderstandings. I am loyal and try to be kind even when I am angry. I will not be pushed around unless you have a weapon but I will cooperate and aim for high ground. I do need time to work things out in my mind before a confrontation so am learning to ask for time to consider what will be discussed. I like lists and sticking to the point. Let's just get through one thing before we address another.
I used to be a dirty fighter. I no longer find that winning is worth any price. I really learned that sticking to the things that are right no matter what it costs will make the outcome acceptable even if not exactly what I wanted. Life is short and I am on the short end. I want more peace and self-acceptance but I still do not fear a fight. I also don't run toward the fight.

So what is your concern and tactical plans re: confrontation?

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

I got an Award!

Ashley from the put me up for this award! Thanks dear! Here is the verbage that accompanied the award:

"These blogs are exceedingly charming. These kind of bloggers aim to find and be friends. They are not interested in self-aggrandizement. Our hope is that when the ribbons of these prizes are cut, even mmore friendships are propagated. Please give more attention to these writers. Deliver this award to eight bloggers who must choose eight more and include this cleverly written text into the body of their award."

Sigh. This was very nice after a round of stressful texting about a problem with a friend. Peace be on you Ash!

My choices are:

Jamie@ always on my mind.blogspot

Shirley@ storyteller of life.blogspot

Pam@ whitewingedpam.blogspot

Pam@ sidewalkshoes.blogspot

Brenda@ coffeeteabooksandme.blogspot

Jenna@ truedreamerredeemed.blogspot


Teresa@ teresaksheeley.typepad

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Life is busy here!

Jack and I have a houseguest who cooks! It is great to be able to finish a project and have her do all the cooking with guidance as to what to make and then she even cleans it up. Wham bam thank you maaaaam!
It is working out to have that extra bed in the living room for now, and with Jenna in school it is nice to be able to run to the church and work for a couple hours with Pam staying with Jack. She has an affection for him and likes to make him smile and laugh. It is probably good for him to have a new face to talk to and he really enjoys her cooking so that makes it a good time for us.